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Dear Jade, I just found out that someone I thought was a work friend is spreading lies about me. Nothing that those who work closely with me would believe but I don't want it to ruin my rep with others in the office. How do I handle it so that it doesn't get too nasty? I still have to see her every day. Karen HE SAID: Dear Karen: There is always someone in the office befitting of this honor. Not only is this behavior rude and conniving, it is down right juvenile. Sorry to say this but women are most likely the offenders. Having worked in an office environment, I have discovered certain traits of a rumor spreader: a lonely woman who is insecure with too much time to spare. Call me a male chauvinist but deep down you would agree that women have a greater propensity to be rumor spreaders than the men in the office. So now what should you do? Confronting her may exacerbate the situation. My suggestion is to go about your daily routine and focus on your work. Just know the rumor spreader is going to say the wrong thing to the wrong person one day. When that day comes, and yes it will, just sit back and enjoy the fireworks. |
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SHE SAID: Some people are just jealous bitches. With that said, your "work friend" must have issues with you. Find out the exact details of the lies. Go directly to the "source" and asked her directly why she started these lies. I'd also have a tape recorder in my pocket to tape the conversation, just in case you need to let everyone at your work place know that your "work friend" is actually a liar. BUT MAMA SAID: It is too bad you have to be in this kind of situation. There are some people out there who feel that they need to make others look bad in order to make themselves look and feel better. A direct discussion is probably the best way to stop this since your friend probably thinks that she is getting away with it. You should let her know that you are aware that she is saying things about you and that you would like her to stop. If she doesn't, then you should take it to the next level and let your supervisor know what is going on so that your name is kept clear. Hopefully this will all end very quickly. |
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